Posts tagged #Judgments

You Are A Blip On Their Radar

     Watch the Video! "Radar" by Blake Brandes (Motivational Blog Rap #33)

The reality is that most people think about themselves most of the time. At best, we are often a blip on their radar screen before they turn their attention to something or someone else.

This could be really depressing. We could say, "Wow, everyone is so focused on themselves. No one cares about me."

But what if being a blip on everyone's radar screen was actually freeing?

Posted on April 9, 2015 .

All The Same And All Alone

     Watch the Video! "Same Difference" by Blake Brandes (Motivational Blog Rap #26)

How often do we find ourselves in situations where we don’t understand why someone made the decision they made? 

Maybe that person ignored you, insulted you, committed a crime, or made a short-sighted decision that had negative consequences. 

Maybe that person was a stranger in a restaurant, or maybe it was a close friend or family member. 

“I can’t believe that person did that!” you might think to yourself.  “I’d never do that!”

Posted on February 5, 2015 .

Sick of "Should"

     Watch the Video! "Should" by Blake Brandes (Motivational Blog Rap #15)

Man, I am sick of "should." Every day I see people I care about stressing out about what they should and shouldn't do based on other people's anticipated judgments or expectations. Sometimes those judgments matter (like your boss's), but even then, we have a tendency to pressure and disempower ourselves out of fear.

"Will they laugh at me?'

"Will they think I'm incompetent?"

"Will they disapprove of my life choices?"

Every time I catch myself saying, "I should..." or "I shouldn't..." I try to pause and reflect: Is this "should" helping me reach my ultimate outcomes?

Posted on November 20, 2014 .