Posts tagged #Pain

Developing Defense Mechanisms From Past Pain

     Watch the Video! "Defenses" by Blake Brandes (Motivational Blog Rap #34)

When I was 15, I told my friend that I liked a girl in my class. 

By that afternoon, the whole school knew about it. 

Feeling humiliated, I made a decision: Never tell anyone something that you don’t want repeated to everyone you know.  

As I’ve been reading Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly, I’ve been thinking about how and why we develop defense mechanisms. 

Radical Acceptance

     Watch the Video! "Radical Acceptance" by Blake Brandes (Motivational Blog Rap #11)

Can you feel pain without suffering?  How about suffering without pain?  Although we often use the two terms synonymously, they are different concepts. 

A woman in labor might feel pain but not suffering because she is joyful about having a baby.  On the flipside, a mother might suffer because her child is in prison, but she is not having pain inflicted on her. 

This distinction is the key to the concept of “radical acceptance.”  Suffering arises when we wish things were other than they are.  We long for a reality that does not exist, and that difference between the reality we want and the reality we see is suffering. 

Posted on October 16, 2014 .